Spanking Info

My Role as Your Disciplinarian

I am neither mean nor sadistic but every spanking, even a light one, will need to make its point. Of course, everyone's tolerance is different. We will have plenty of discussion about this in advance. This will allow me to provide the right level of intensity for your custom session. Also, we will always use a "safe word" system in case you need any activity to pause or stop. At the end of your session, I will be there to help you down from your "spanking high", if you'd like me to be. I can give you a hug, we can talk or I can give you space so that you can reflect on your spanking in private. The choice is yours.

The Five Types of Spankings

The possibilities are somewhat endless, however, there are five basic types of spankings that I give, as follows:

Recreational or Funishment Spanking

This is typically my favorite type of spanking. It's the spanking for no particular reason. It may also be referred to as the "good girl" spanking. Sometimes a woman just needs a spanking, craves a spanking or has always wanted to try a spanking. Sometimes a woman simply needs some stress relief or wants to reward herself with a good spanking, not as a punishment. Maybe you watched 50 Shades of Gray and you're wondering if it would actually be painful or is there more pleasure in the pain? Are you a Spanko or a Spankophile? Were you hoping for a great spanking but you were let down because your significant-other thought he was going to hurt you, even when you were craving a little more? In all of these case, I understand. I know you. I've heard similar stories in the past and I'm here for you in a safe, sane and discreet environment.

Discipline Spankings

This spanking is consensual discipline for breaking agreed upon rules, intended to correct behavior, provide guidance, and help the spankee in their personal growth. This is often paired with some coaching and an agreed-upon plan to get you back on-track.

Hard Spanking

The hard spanking is usually reserved for an experienced player who really has "the need to feel". This impact play will typically go beyond a hand spanking or a light paddle, in favor of more intense implements like a belt, tawse, crop, or cane.

Maintenance Spanking

Unlike the recreational "for no reason" spanking, a maintenance spanking is given regularly to reaffirm the spankee's submissive role to the spanker and keep the relationship healthy. It also serves as a reminder that a more serious spanking is easily within reach.

Therapy Spanking

I am not a licensed therapist nor do I claim to provide any actual therapy services. In fact, spanking therapy is not known to be an accepted form of therapy. Nevertheless, some do find it therapeutic. This spanking is designed to effect the free release of emotion and provide a judgement-free environment for the spankee to let go and tearfully express their feelings.

Special Circumstances

I understand that some women who are interested in my services may be concerned with the lingering effects of a good spanking, such as leaving with a long-lasting red or bruised bottom. If your circumstances dictate that you cannot have any noticeable effects of your spanking, we can discuss the steps that can be taken to minimize these effects, as well as some alternative form of discipline that may work for you.

Finally, although I said elsewhere on this site that I am neither mean nor sadistic, I understand that sometimes you may require or crave a particularly harsh or intense spanking or paddling. Please be confident that I will always deliver the intensity that you require. Although I will never do anything to actually, physically harm you and we will always use a "safe word", for your safety.

Beyond a Simple Spanking

I am often asked about spanking, BDSM and asked if they are both the same thing. They are not. Spanking is frequently used as part of BDSM. Nevertheless, spanking can exist as a separate and discrete activity without many of the traditional BSDM components or implications. Spanking is not necessarily a gateway to BDSM. So you needn't worry about whips and chains in your future.

That said, I have been known to dabble in BDSM. I discuss this further in my FAQ.
If you are interested in exploring such things, we can talk about it once we've gotten to know each other.

If you're all the way down here, at the bottom of this page - thank you for reading.

I spank you not to take away your power, but to remind you why you surrender it to me in the first place. This is punishment, and yet you are grateful. This is your true place.