Frequently Asked

Questions

Are you really just interested in spanking me?

Yes. There is a physical and emotional connection that unavoidably occurs between spanker and spankee. I truly enjoy that and that is why I do this but that is usually where it ends. That is the complete experience and all that I am after.

Who do you work with?

I only work with adult females between the ages of 28 and 60, some have been married. This has included recent college graduates, busy businesswomen, bored housewives and adventure seeking Palm Beachers. Also the occasional spanko in need of a spanking. The paddle does not discriminate.

What will you use to spank me?

That depends on what type of spanking you will be getting, introductory or advanced, or the purpose of the spanking, fun, motivational, discipline. Of course, all spankings are consensual, so you always have control over what we do but a spanking can consist of a simple hand-spanking or it could be delivered with a wooden paddle, a leather paddle, a cane or other implement. Again, everything will be tailored based on your consent and comfort level.

What if I change my mind or I don't like it?

We will always use signals and safewords. Nodding your head “yes”, for example, will let me know that you are well. Using what we call the stop-light system, “green” lets me know that it’s OK to accelerate. “Yellow” indicates that I should slow down or that you are nearing your limit. If you say “red” – everything stops. Of course, if you change your mind about being spanked all-together, you are free to go. Hopefully, we will part as friends and maybe you’ll be back someday.

Can we do spanking therapy?

Yes. We just need to be clear about certain things. I am NOT a licensed therapist of any kind and spanking therapy is an unregulated practice that does not require any such licensing. Also, I am not treating or healing any medical condition. If you have any kind of a medical condition, you should be seeing a licensed physician.

Spanking therapy means different things to different people. First, I've known a few women looking to alter behaviors such as lack of motivation, procrastination, over-spending and others. To change these unwanted behaviors, we can design spanking therapy sessions that are similar to motivational spankings with slightly different context. Secondly, spanking therapy has been known to help people with certain conditions like anxiety or depression to deal with their symptoms by releasing your adrenaline, endorphins and other hormones. After all, this is what spanking is all about. This is just a different way of using it and it can be fun.

Will you spank me for no reason at all?

Of course! We can have sessions for any reason you’d like. If needed, we can always make up a reason in a role-playing scenario or agree that it’s a spanking simply for fun, stress-relief, because you deserve it or for no reason at all. This is all up to you.

Do you charge for your services?

I do not charge for my services. This is a not a business. This should be mutually rewarding for both of us.

Also, if you need a spanking, I want it to be within your budget to get one.

What should I expect at our spanking session?

We will discuss why you're about to be spanked. We will be sure to discuss limits. Then, you will get into position. This could be classic OTK (over the knee), bent over a chair or the edge of a desk. I will usually start with a warm-up hand spanking to the seat of your jeans or whatever you are wearing. Based on your pre-discussed preferences, limits or comfort level, this can later escalate to the use of a paddle, other implement or, if permitted, it could progress to a bare-bottom spanking or paddling.

What should I wear to my spanking session?

Ideally, you would wear jeans or a skirt. Jeans do not really provide a lot of protection and are ideal for a spanking. Of course, you can always remove them for a bare-bottom spanking. Skirts can be easily lifted so that your bottom can be properly targeted. Regardless, you are free to wear whatever you feel comfortable wearing.

What happens after my spanking?

This is also entirely up to you. After a spanking, some women want to quickly depart. Others enjoy some amount of aftercare, like a hug, a backrub or I can leave you alone to privately reflect on your spanking. Normally, I will want some brief feedback on our session and to discuss when we might see each other again.

Will I get a spanking every time that I see you?

Hopefully. If you are just coming to me for spanking, then YES. If you are coming to me for coaching or to enhance your motivation, will discuss this and, ultimately, it will be up to you. In some cases, women only want to be spanked or paddled when a punishment is required. In other cases, women like to be spanked or paddled on every visit, as a reminder or "maintenance spanking", and the severity is increased when it is intended as a punishment. I recommend that you always get a spanking.

Spanking and BDSM, are they the same thing?

As topics, those two are usually talked about together. Spanking is often used as part of BDSM, it is also a separate and distinct, standalone practice that doesn’t include any of the traditional BSDM rules, etiquettes, components or implications.

I enjoy BDSM. Are you a BDSM practitioner?

Although my primary focus is on spanking, as we get to know each other, we can expand upon what is brought into our sessions, which could include some BDSM elements. This is not an uncommon request, as spanking is often seen as a starter or gateway into BDSM. Let’s start with a spanking and see where things go.

I’m not female. Can I get a spanking from you?

I understand that non-females need spankings too.

Unfortunately, I only work with biological females who were born biological females.

Do you only spank attractive women?

I get asked this because there are pictures of pretty girls on my website. My answer is YES because I believe that at some level, all women are attractive. I have known a number of women who might have been considered less than attractive by everyday norms but they are awesome women with lovely souls and were beautiful spankees. I will try to never judge or discriminate on appearances.

You must have some criteria or requirements?

I do. Hygiene is very important to me. If you are clean, it's a green light. You should also be in good health but talk to me.
Health is a tricky thing. I've worked with a few women whose health issues led them to needing a spanking regularly.

Do a lot of women contact you for a spanking?

Not really. I am also selective and only manage to connect with someone every once in a while. Mostly I get contacted by scammers, the curious and even law enforcement. Fortunately, I don't do anything illegal and I'm not very easy to scam. I always welcome conversations with the curious.

Can I bring a friend with me to my spanking session?

If you have a female friend, who would also like a spanking, YES. We can discuss and arrange a dual session. If you have a friend who will not be participating, either female or male, they can, of course, drive you to your spanking session but they must wait for you outside, in the car. I don’t have a waiting room. Only participants may accompany you to your sessions. No spectators.

Can you teach my husband to discipline me?

I've been asked this question often. The short answer is YES. Because he will be a participant and not just a spectator during those sessions, he would be able to attend and I will tailor the sessions to include him and educate him on what you need and how you need it. The goal should be that, eventually, you may not need me. If you are serious about this, talk to me.

Where in South Florida are you? UPDATED: 09/26

I live just South of West Palm Beach. However, I've had a recent/temporary change in living arrangements, which means that I am currently not able to host these activities at my place. That leaves us two choices. I can come to you or we can arrange to meet at another venue. For example, I have a friend who has agreed to loan me her place, as needed. Also, I have been doing some traveling around Florida. When I travel, I usually stay at a VRBO, which provides plenty of privacy for spanking activities. My travels have mostly included Orlando and Tampa. Please reach out to discuss details.

Have you had any formal training at spanking?

This is not a frequently asked question but I wanted to brag a little. There is no such thing as formal training at spanking. You've either done it a lot or you haven't. You either know the difference between good pain and bad pain or you don't. I did spank a professional spankee once (and I can't wait to spank her again), straight from London, where she does this as her career.

She asked me, "have you spanked a lot of bottoms?"

I told her that I had probably spanked more than my fair share.

She replied, "I can tell. You're quite good at it."

"A spanking is not meant to diminish. It is meant to nourish. The unspoken message conveyed to anyone over a knee is, 'I care about you. I am not indifferent to your need, your guilt, your loneliness. I will not walk away. You will not be passed over or ignored.

I see you, and I care enough to discipline you.'"